Voice in Your Bed
Do you talk during sex? Or are you a silent fuck?
I’ve dealt with both types… Talkers and the silent type. I personally enjoy talking during sex, but I’m conscious of what I say or over doing it; possibly ruining the mood. Talking dirty is fun, but it’s an acquired skill. One should only speak to enhance the overall experience, this is not the time to talk about feelings or how your day went! All I want to hear is how amazing my ***** is and what you want to do to me next, all of that in between the grunts and moans of course. I will return the favor telling you how good you feel and blah blah blah mixed with some moans and a couple “iye!”s makes for a sexy soundtrack for the night… No?
Vocalizing can bring on mental stimulation before and during the physical fun… here is scientific proof for all you non-believers.
Daryl Cioffi says “dirty talk is a whole mind and body experience.”
“People very much enjoy dirty talking because it activates all regions of your brain while your body is also getting stimulated,” Cioffi told Medical Daily. “Similar areas of the brain are touched upon during dirty talk as when we curse. So, very often as your brain sees it, the dirtier the better.”
Silence may be golden but it’s alarming while having sex! Hearing nothing, like not even a moan, only concerns me that you’re not into the greatness that is happening right before your eyes! And how creepy would it be to be so vocal while the other person just looks at you…breathing…heavily.
Here’s a good list of tips Pop Sugar put together for beginners:
And even easier advice!
From The Coveteur — Lindsay Brown writes:
“I’m a big fan of [sex columnist/hero] Dan Savage’s advice, which is super simple: describe what you’re going to do, describe what you are doing, and describe what you just did. I think people think it’s more complicated, but it really can be that simple. Once you feel comfortable, you can take it from there.”
She breaks this down further here:
Now go make some noise!
And I’m curious… What do you like to hear in bed?? ;)